Wednesday, April 17, 2013

JUSTA


If I had my way, I’d eliminate the words ‘just a’ from our workplace vocabulary. You know the phrase…

“Don’t shoot me, I’m just the messenger!”

“I’m just a clerk….I don’t have any power here.”

“Don’t blame me…I’m just a cog in the wheel.”

What message do the words ‘just a’ send when placed in front of your position, role or title to you? To the person(s) who is listening? Here are the messages that it sends to me:

·         It subtly discounts and devalues you, your position and your contribution.

·         It excuses you from acting as a responsible adult at work and for taking ownership of the overall success of your workplace.

·         It undermines your confidence, initiative and drive. It says, “I’m powerless; I’m a victim; I’m small.” And it gives the listener license to believe those things about you too.

·         It not so subtly implies that there is someone(s) who isn’t ‘just a’, who should be leading or making a difference; who should own the current opportunity or challenge.

When we send this message to ourselves often enough, it keeps us stuck in the cement of mediocrity; limits our possibilities, smothers our creativity….we settle for something less than our best selves. Everyday leaders make a CONSCIOUS CHOICE each day to NOT embed that type of message in their workplace DNA. Instead, they feed themselves a steady diet of a very different message…”I’m a very important leader (VIL). Every day, there are dozens of opportunities for me to shine – to Take The Lead – in some way.”  “What I do and how I think makes a difference.”

Knock, Knock.

Who’s there?

Justa.

Justa Who?

Just asking you to not use the words just a!

Friday, March 8, 2013

Detox Your Thoughts


Two of my colleagues separately embarked on ‘cleansing diets’ early this year. Both of them had similar reasons for their decision. They felt sluggish, mildly ill most of the time, unfocused, and stuck somehow. Neither of them were anywhere near their ‘best selves.’ And, from their descriptions, they both followed a food-based detox plan to shake things up. Total food intake wasn’t restricted. Rather, certain foods or categories of food were either off-limits or eaten sparingly; for example, dairy, wheat, sugar, fried foods, processed foods…you get the picture. And fresh, healthy foods, mostly vegetables and fruits, were substituted in their place.

Both individuals told pretty much the same story – the change was really challenging for the first week or two. After all, they were interrupting eating patterns that had been a part of them for a while. But after that, they went from sluggish to energized; from unfocused to clear headed, creative and confident; from stuck to ‘free’ and light. And they were both hooked! After almost two months, both of them have easily sustained their new relationship with food – their new eating habits. Both remarked that they ‘felt like their old selves.’

Hearing these two people tell their stories with enthusiasm, passion and pride really got me thinking…. I’m certain that most of us have either been on a similar diet or know someone who has. It’s a great accomplishment, but not that unusual. But, what if we applied the same approach to our thoughts?

I’ve noticed that many of us are trapped in what I call ‘thought ruts.’ We’re on auto-pilot. We think the same thoughts, usually more negative than constructive, out of habit, rather than by choice. And, in much the same way that my colleagues’ diets led to them feeling sick, tired and out of whack, I firmly believe that our thoughts are equally, if not more, powerful. We keep thinking the same thoughts about people, situations and circumstances and somehow expect things to change. That’s the definition of insane, according to Einstein. We hit the replay button in our minds and cycle through same old same old thinking and then wonder why we’re still stuck and nothing’s getting better.  Instead,

What if ….

…We consciously choose which thoughts we will entertain day in and day out? Choosing healthy, constructive ones and declaring fear-based, pessimistic ones to be off limits.

….We fostered a healthy mistrust of our own perspectives and opinions and assumed that we only have part of the whole picture and others may have a better, more accurate view or interpretation?

…We chose to think the best of others (or give the benefit of the doubt) rather than the worst?

…We decided to create sparks of possibility through intentional thinking, rather than focusing on what’s wrong and who’s to blame?

…We once and for all accepted the idea that the past does not necessarily predict the future?

…Each of us intentionally chose to be memorable in a good way each day?

…We remained laser focused on all of the things that are going right or are working with our team, in our workplace, in our life?

…We treated our colleagues as VIPs and actively helped them to be successful and lead effectively from their seats.

…We chose to show up at work in thought, word and action as the best version of ourselves on a regular basis?  

My educated guess is that if you chose a steady diet of fresh, healthy, productive, positive thoughts each day, you would experience the same transformation that my colleagues did. And more. That’s my leadership dare: Engage in a detox diet for your thoughts! Let me know what happens.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Twenty Seconds of Insane Courage




One of my favorite ‘feel good’ movies is We Bought A Zoo, starring Matt Damon and Scarlett Johansson. What can I tell you, I’m a sucker for sweet stories that include animals! The way that the characters used language so creatively is part of what made it special for me as well. One of my favorite quotes comes from Matt Damon’s character, Benjamin Mee. He shares a life lesson with his son by saying: “…Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just literally, 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery…” 
 
I think that’s equally applicable to everyday leadership. In order to ‘lead from your seat’ each day, you don’t need to be perfect; you don’t even need to be ‘on’ every single moment. What you do need are mini bursts of organizational bravery throughout your work day – twenty seconds of insane courage – to challenge same old same old thinking; to try something different and better; to do the right thing; to behave as an adult; to help a colleague to be successful; or to simply choose to be happy and optimistic.

Big doors swing on small hinges --- it is the little stuff that we do consistently throughout our day that adds up to big change and even bigger opportunity. That’s what everyday leadership is all about!

Today, make that your mantra --- 20 seconds of insane courage. Consider it a leadership dare! And to jump start your thinking; here are some everyday examples of organizational bravery:
  1. Avoid the temptation to join in on gossip or griping
  2. Ask for help or offer a helping hand without being asked
  3. Accept responsibility rather than make excuses or throw blame
  4. Warmly welcome a new member to your team
  5. Agree to try something that scares you – e.g. give a presentation
  6. Really listen to the feedback that someone is giving you, especially if it is difficult to hear
  7. Say no to an unreasonable request, suggest an appropriate alternative
  8. Mend a relationship, even if it includes apologizing and/or forgiving
  9. Discuss the ‘elephant in the room’ at a meeting
  10. Have lunch with someone new, who’s not part of your inner circle   
Take the dare yourself today! It’s simple but not easy.  Repeat after me…..20 seconds of insane courage….twenty seconds of insane courage.  Let us know how you do and pass the dare on to one other person tomorrow.

Monday, February 4, 2013

Everyday Leadership Tip #1

Be intentional. Everyday leaders don’t simply ‘show up’ at work on autopilot; letting their current habits carry them through the day. They ‘re-choice’ each day. They consciously choose how they will think, feel and behave that day.

Try this simple technique

As you walk into work, ask yourself and then answer these three basic questions:
  • Who will I show up as at work today? 
  • How will I chose to ‘be’ today at work? 
  • What will I choose to ‘do’ in both task and relationships? 

Takes two minutes to do. This conversation with yourself could be THE most important one that you have all day.